Overthinkers
THIS space is for you
Find focus & feel lighter with The Boundaries Coach
Your brilliant brain is always racing…
You're drowning in unfinished to-do lists, saying "yes" when you desperately need to say "no," and wondering why everyone else seems to have this "adulting" thing figured out.
The cycle is exhausting:
Overwhelm leads to procrastination
Procrastination triggers perfectionism
Perfectionism creates more overwhelm
Meanwhile, your own needs keep getting pushed aside
Does that sound like you?
If so, then I want to reassure you that…
You’re not actually broken…
The procrastination-perfectionism loop keeps you stuck in doubt, fear, and a never ending to do list. That makes adulting feel overstimulating & impossible to stay on top of, but it doesn’t have to stay that way…
You just need better boundaries…
Introducing Boundaries & Balance
Saying yes when you mean no?
Boundaries & Balance is the coaching program for overthinkers who are exhausted from constantly saying yes and ready to set boundaries that actually stick - without drama or guilt.
It's time to rekindle your inner spark and let yourself shine as the real you.
CommuniTea
Bond, decompress, and laugh with your favorite group of weirdos in CommuniTea, the weekly journaling group. Experience a judgement-free safe space so you can explore your thoughts, embrace your uniqueness, and connect with like-minded people. Membership includes journaling prompts, guided conversation (no popcorn style here!), and a resource library packed with meditation and yoga videos.
The Less = More Planner
For anyone that struggles with sticking with new routines, the Less = More Planner blends structure and flexibility, so you can actually prioritize, uncover the “why” behind the procrastination (that’s keeping you stuck), and finally check things off your to-do list (without shame, guilt, or saying “I should’ve done this already!”)
Private Coaching
This is for you if you crave accountability for lasting change. In private coaching I hold your hand the whole way as we define who you are, decide what you want, create your personalized plan, and take each step together so you can activate your bright sparkly self.
Hey, I’m Kerstin (she/her), The Boundaries Coach
I help over-thinkers stop saying yes when they mean no—and set healthy boundaries without pushback or guilt.
When we work together, we’ll figure out what’s keeping you stuck in your exhaustion-loop, craft boundaries to maintain your energy, and work together step-by-step so that you can declare who you are and what you want (all without the guilt!).
When you've got solid boundaries, everything becomes easier.
Decisions feel effortless.
It's easy to prioritize and organize your life.
You feel happier.
And you don’t fear the tough conversations anymore.
What you’ll gain when we work together:
A customized boundaries framework designed specifically for you
Practical strategies to stop the people-pleasing and reclaim your time
A supportive community that understands your unique challenges
Clear decision-making tools that cut through the overwhelm
Permission to prioritize yourself (your needs are important too!)
Accountability that works with your brain, not against it
My approach blends compassionate understanding with practical action. As someone who's navigated these same challenges, I won't just tell you what to do—I'll show you how to make it work for YOUR unique brain and life.
At 32 I had a mid-life crisis. I was living a life based on "shoulds" - given to me by other people instead listening to my own inner brilliance. A lack of boundaries and accountability left me feeling stuck - until I hired a coach who helped me find the bright-sparkly-weird-quirky nerd that I am and bring her to the surface. Now, as The Boundaries Coach, I help women and non-binary folks reclaim their sparkly, authentic selves.
Intentionally carve out time for yourself
“When I began attending CommuniTea I realized just how much I missed out on because I was in my head 95% of the time rather than in the present moment.
With that insight and Kerstin’s steady guidance, I started the process of learning to slow down, pause, do a self check-in, and connect with others.
This simple habit of intentionally carving time out for myself to do a weekly-pause + introspect has helped me manage my anxiety immensely.
I knew no matter how chaotic my week would be that I would have a dedicated space to decompress, get my head straight, and get off my mental treadmill."
— Leo
Like talking to a best friend, but without the baggage of judgement
“I could tell right away that Kerstin has a special gift for helping people… I got to discover more about who I was, who I am, and who I want to be. Coaching with Kerstin always felt like talking to a best friend, but without the baggage of judgment or shame when disclosing deep personal thoughts. Kerstin’s gentle guidance, support and encouragement makes you think and dig deep; and she is the kindest, neutral third-party that can offer advice and expertise.
I owe my happiness, healthiness, and mental radiance to Kerstin’s courses and friendship.
I cannot recommend her enough. Whether you know exactly what it is that you seek, or don’t even realize that you’re stuck and are seeking something, Kerstin will help you get there.”
— Cat
Gain clarity on what direction to take next
“I started working with Kerstin because I wanted some more clarity on what direction to take next. She has such a gentle and empathetic energy and I always feel held and supported in our sessions together.
Kerstin has helped me commit to my truth, see my own genius and help me plan to bring my passion into life. I am truly grateful for our time together, it's been a pleasure to work with such a kind-hearted, soul led human. Thank you, Kerstin ♥”
— Samantha Garstin, Founder of MenstrualWISE
Feel relief, acceptance, and healing
“I appreciate Kerstin's ability to listen and let me express myself. She has an amazing ability of hearing people out without judgment. Instead she provides support, guidance, reassurance, validation and helps me work through my emotions, feel safe, and secure. This allows me to hear my own truth and find my own answers. She is amazing at clarifying and verbalizing the things I would not be able to describe - which brings relief, acceptance, and healing. I love how she makes sense out of chaos and uses simplicity to tackle big issues. I highly recommend anyone to work with Kerstin!"
— Irina Kurtsevaya, Founder of Boghinya
This is a safe space to practice being vulnerable
“Kerstin’s programs have provided me with a safe space to practice being vulnerable. Learning how to open up has been hard, but I feel like this space was created for people like me. People who need a gentle nudge in the right direction. There's so much more that I'm willing to say in this safe space. Kerstin has no judgment, whatever flies out of my mouth is OK. I’m so grateful to Kerstin and this space!”
— Adrienne Robertson
The structure I needed to grow my whole self
“I have worked with Kerstin for years through her coaching programs, journaling system and CommuniTea, which is a pillar in my life…she has provided the trellis, the structure I needed to grow my whole self.
She has supported me as I get to the point in my life where I look forward and think, I am capable and it's an amazing feeling.
Growing up is hard, it means recognizing your effect on the world and the world effect on you. Being able to do it requires support. I have made mistakes, instead of running from them, I have the space to see these and work through them.”
— Elena Cooper 
The right balance of guidance and space
“Every once in a while someone comes along who can 𝗚𝗘𝗡𝗨𝗜𝗡𝗘𝗟𝗬 help people see their own greatness and take steps to embrace it and live a fulfilling life…
Kerstin’s magic is in how she connects with people personally, and she has a real gift for clarity.
Kerstin Phillips is warm and personable, insightful and intuitive, masterful at offering just the right balance of guidance and space, and the clarity and encouragement she brings to the table cannot be emphasized enough!!”
— Elizabeth Martin
I can go deep and move through it quickly
“I found it really difficult to create the space that is me because I was looking outside. I always thought the answers would be outside, so I’d be scrolling social media or looking for the next shiny object. Oh this is the pathway to success! Oh, no it must be this, it must be doing that…. And then when I did your course I was like 'Wow! I can go deep, but I can also move through that quickly.’ That was the difference for me. I think I cried during your course. ‘It was like oh my gosh this is amazing, how did that happen in a journaling course?”
— Taga Iose, The Money Emotional Intelligence Coach
Feel supported and inspired
"I used to approach every relationship thinking, I will be who I think you want me to be, and I would lose myself.
With your coaching I feel supported and inspired. I feel clearer on what my boundaries are and I feel excited to try these statements. I was thinking I have to succeed and be perfect, but I can just try it."
— Dana Oneto, Founder of Good Karma StudioIf you’ve gotten this far (hi! I’m so glad you’re here!) subscribe to the weekly email below, it’s totally free and was made for over thinkers like you.